Vanity of Facebook chat

I don’t particularly like chatting on Facebook. This is mainly because most chats go like:

‘Hie’

‘Hie. How are you’?

‘I am okay and you?’

Then the chat crumbles. How is that supposed to add value to my life? So basically, if someone initiates chat, I immediately go to their profile and check them out and try and find interesting things we can chat about: Honestly, what good is chat if it is not moving forward? There has to be potential for a relationship of some sort with the people you chat with. What’s the point of chatting if you are not going to remember who you were chatting to the next day.

                It can be argued by most guys that if the initiator of chat is a hot girl, that is exciting enough in itself. But I disagree; the planet is populated with millions of hot girls and that in itself is not enough – there has to be something interesting about someone for me to be interested in chatting with them. Am I being too serious, too rigid in my approach to socializing? I don’t think so. I hate it when someone on facebook asks me what I do when there is a whole paragraph of that on my profile. I ask people what they do, because most profiles don’t say and honestly I will not waste my time on someone I don’t know i.e. what kind of career are you pursuing? What are your interests? We have to have something in common before I waste my time chatting to you when there a lot of important things to be done.

                Same goes for when I am traveling: I will not initiate conversation with someone unless it is going to be a sustainable conversation; I don’t want to be talking about the weather five minutes into the journey and proposing love thirty minutes into the journey. It is stupid. We have to find common ground as humans before we move to other trivial matters like a romantic relationship: I admit I prefer sitting next to a woman when traveling. This is because I find it easier to interact with a woman: Honestly, what do you talk about with a guy besides soccer. After a pleasant journey next to a hot woman, I usually say goodbye without asking for a phone number: I don’t know how that has been taken by the numerous women I have sat next to. I only ask for contact details if something interesting leaps at me like coming across a fellow writer or someone who has managed to grapple at some intellectual level of some sort.

                A friend once asked me how I find partners because I don’t seem to be aggressive in my approach towards relationships. The answer is, I don’t: A relationship will happen if it is supposed to happen. There are things we can be aggressive about like career and the like. But aggressively pursuing a relationship is stupid: That is one sure way of messing things up and setting yourself up for a major heartbreak!