Why men cheat

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I am sure women all over the world are holding their breath for this one: I am sure this is the biggest thorn in most women’s flesh; the cheating ways of men. But of course a lot of women also cheat. I don’t have insight into that though, but I have a niggling suspicion that the reasons why men cheat might be similar to the reasons why women cheat.

Reason number one why men cheat is their big ego: A woman saying yes to man’s advances boosts a man’s ego. But this has got a pathetically temporary effect on the said ego; the moment she says yes, the excitement is gone and the next ego booster will be to get into the woman’s panties and the moment that is done it’s time to move on to the next victim. So if the whole process takes one day, then a new woman must be found every day. That explains why some men will propose ‘love’ to every woman they sit next to on the bus, train... every woman they stand next to in the queue at the bank, in the supermarket…There are men who will proposition a friend’s wife in the kitchen as the husband sits in the lounge.

But the above category is a lost cause: What wife can put up with a husband who proposes ‘love’ to different women up to five times a week. The kind that gives many a wife sleepless nights are the kind who has one or two lovers on the side; the so called ‘small houses’. This small house phenomenon is mainly caused by the rigid definition of what a wife should be like as opposed to what men really want in a woman. The traditional way of looking at things is that a wife should be ‘decent’ and obedient. By decent I mean she wears long skirts and dresses and in a few extreme cases she must always have a head wrap. This aspect is rapidly changing though as most women are insisting on being ‘fashionable’. The wife is expected to cook, clean and wash and most wives do this perfectly.

If the wife does her domestic chores perfectly and is fashionable, there is one area where a lot of men are unwilling to compromise on: The problem is in the bedroom: Wives are not expected to know anything about sex and to show that they enjoy sex. Even though this is not openly discussed, the argument amongst men is that a woman who enjoys and knows a lot about sex has slept with a lot of men and therefore she is of loose morals. And now herein lies the problem: Men enjoy sexual attention from women; the idea of having a total slut in the bedroom is pretty exciting. But God forbid, the ‘slut’ can’t be the wife. The solution is then to go and find someone else who knows all the sexual tricks. Someone whose sexual history does not matter. Someone who will look sexy in a miniskirt at functions and provide a night of wild sex at the end of the day. Someone who will never be introduced to disapproving parents, uncles, aunts and grandparents.

I once read a story in the newspaper about a man who beat up his wife because she sat astride atop him and demanded sex. She was acting like a prostitute, he argued. He wouldn’t have minded though if that kind of thing had been done by his ‘small house’. That’s where the dilemma kicks in for the wives: You know the ‘small house’ wears miniskirts, leggings… has a gigantic makeup kit and is a total slut in the bedroom but you can’t do the same so that you can keep your man to yourself because a wife is supposed to be ‘decent’.

Some enlightened men are now having hybrid wives who cook, clean up, and behave ‘properly’ in public, but are total ‘sluts’ in the bedroom. Because honestly the problem with insisting on a wife who does not enjoy sex in the modern world is that a lot of women are not married as virgins so as a man what you have to know is that your wife might have attained a wild orgasm before she met you and she might go out to find that and still pretend to be the ‘perfect wife’ with you.